2Sense Shortie: Long Distance Love
Finding love and interactions during the pandemic have been difficult for some but long distance dating is not a new term. In fact, there have been several debates over the years at to whether or not long distance love can stand the test of time.
It is true that there is someone for everyone but your person may not live in the same city, state, or even country as you. In a world full of shows such as '90 day Fiance', it gives you a glimpse into what it is like to fall in love with someone long distance. Except they add an extra element for entertainment. With all the fighting amongst the couples and even the families at times, most of the couples only stay together for the show. There are very few who are actually still together after the cameras turn off.
Truth is, long distance relationships can be challenging but they are possible. How do I know, you ask? Well, my marriage is a product of long distance.
My story (the short version):
My husband and I met 13 years ago when he made a trip from Texas to my home town in Missouri. Now, I was at a point in my life where I just wanted to be alone until I met him. We met at a mutual gathering where we talked for the remainder of the evening. We even got together the following day. We talked about everything from likes to dislikes, relationships, friendships and more. It was amazing but all good things come to an end........or so I thought.
He had to go back home, and I had to go back to regular life. We promised to keep in touch and even visit one another. I came to visit him and he came to visit me. He would often talk about how the distance was a bit to much for him and eventually would tell me that he just wanted to be friends. I was heartbroken because I did invest a lot of myself into making things work. Then.........I noticed he was dating another woman and that is the reason he wanted to be friends.
We were separated for a year until we reconnected through my sister who had become good friends with him. From that point on, we made it official, made each other a priority (despite the distance), and eventually I moved to Texas where we would spend the rest of our lives together.
Long distance relationships take work, travel, time, and most of all an amazing level of trust and communication between both parties involved. My husband and I have been married for 10 years now and I can honestly say due to being long distance, the trust between us is impenetrable. We are NOT perfect but we make it work. Thats what marriage is (but thats another story for another day).
Let me know below what you guys think. Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? How did it work out? Do you believe LDR'S are worth it?
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